I looked at the old me - the one that persisted on taking actions to do things the "right" way.
The "right" way might not be anything truly "right" but a set of conditioned beliefs and sometimes fear. The fear of being judged and being thought as otherwise.
Being "right" allowed me to fit in and so I belonged. I needed to be somewhere for I wasn't really clear who would I be if alone - no community, no tribe, no team, no friends, no family ...
And so I compromised.
I am not a whole lot different now but I am definitely living from a different place. Now, I get clear on my values and their relationships with my priorities. I still embrace differences with an open heart but know where to draw my boundaries.
Everyone is different and I understand my own made-up therefore I realign my energies to match my desires.
I acknowledge and accept my wounds, patterns and weaknesses - reflect, take a bow and shift.
Having a goal and taking actions are important but nothing beats actions that come from a place of non-doing, a place of ease and pleasure (loads of inner work needed!).
I've reaffirmed my views about leadership.
You are a leader when you hold a vision, overflow with abundance from within and take actions from this place of prosperity and sharing - soft and tender.
Everyone can be a leader if you allow yourself to be led by your soul. Hence it's not about "following" but finding the alignment - even when it comes to working with a leader that you respect.
Yes, there's ups and downs in life but when you allow yourself to soften and release the need to control, you become strong from inside.
You start to live YOU.
This is when and where you truly belong - to your SOUL and the WORLD.